Walking My Talk (Despite Facebook)

I regularly hear people bemoaning the rise of social media (including Facebook) and predicting the end of all connections, relationships and communication with social media as the evil empire. I am NOT in this camp, and I have always believed that social media is merely one of many communication and […]

Employment Baggage

We all know about personal baggage. You know, that “stuff” from our past experiences that we carry around with us and bring into future experiences and relationships. That baggage that everyone else has, but we deny that we ourselves have. That baggage that we sometimes use to hit other people […]

Mime Your Leadership

What if you could not speak? What if you could not communicate with words? What if you chose not to use words to communicate and, instead, limited your communication to actions and gestures? What if you chose to mime your leadership? It may sound crazy, but miming your leadership would […]

You’re Not That Good (or Important)

You heard me: you’re not that good, and you’re not that important. Go on, get over yourself. Yes, I’m talking to you. You—the person who feels the need to control and hold on to things. You—the person who has a hard time delegating and handing off because you’re positive that […]

Tell Me What to Do

This is the plea of many new leaders. While this may seem like a logical request, it reflects the misunderstanding of leadership and leadership development. Many of you have become proficient at what you do, even excellent, and then comes the next opportunity for leadership and growth. You’re given more […]

Lost Without Context

I have long believed that context is critical to communication, understanding and leadership. If I want to understand you or your business, I need to know your context. In order to determine whether my services are the right fit and value for potential clients, I need to understand their context. […]

Beware Your Filters

No, not coffee filters—people and message filters. We like to think that we are thoughtful and discerning in our responses and with our reactions (or lack thereof). However, the reality is that we typically react to people, situations and communication based upon the filters through which we experience everything, which […]

Leadership Comes from the Heart

If you’ve heard me speak on leadership, you know that I have four foundational elements of transformational leadership: Leadership is a choice; Leadership is inside out; Leadership comes from the heart; and Leadership is a matter of life (not just business) These concepts are sometimes difficult to explain (and understand) […]

Alone in the Crowd

I am blessed with many friends of different shapes and sizes, and the natures of my friendships are as different as the friends themselves. I am also blessed with many intimate friendships and deep connections, and when we are together our conversations are rich, authentic and vulnerable. This also includes […]

I’ll Take the Arrow in the Chest

Let’s face it – when it comes to feedback (both giving and receiving it), we stink! Yes, we all say we love feedback, but do we? Yes, we all say we want to help our people grow and develop, but do we give the quality and quantity of feedback that […]