Just Why

(from my soon-to-be-published book, Just One Step: The Journey to Your Unstoppable You) I shared with you in Chapter 3 (Just The Facts) about the painful issues I endured on the Camino with my ankles and feet. First, there were the two shin splints that I encountered (my left shin on day […]

Tools for No … Not Now

(from my soon-to-be-published book, Just One Step: The Journey to Your Unstoppable You) For the past few weeks I’ve been writing about the tools for no – tools to help you improve and accelerate your “no” muscle. These tools don’t eliminate the various challenges to the no, but they help you navigate […]

Tools for No … I Choose To

(from my soon-to-be-published book, Just One Step: The Journey to Your Unstoppable You) Last week I wrote again about some tools to help you improve and accelerate your “no” muscle. These tools don’t eliminate the various challenges to the no, but they help you navigate a world where you’re being constantly called […]

Tools for No … Keep It Clear and Simple

(from my soon-to-be-published book, Just One Step: The Journey to Your Unstoppable You) Last week I introduced you to the tools for saying no – tools to help you improve and accelerate your “no” muscle. These tools won’t eliminate the various challenges to the no, but they’ll help you navigate a world […]

Tools for No … The Pause

(from my soon-to-be-published book, Just One Step: The Journey to Your Unstoppable You) A couple of weeks ago I wrote about the challenges of no – that “yes” is easy and that boundaries (“no”) are hard. In response, I had several people tell me that it’s so true for them and […]

The Feedback Loop

In a world where the norm is to avoid feedback and everything that comes with it (the judgments and criticisms), conscious leaders genuinely and continually seek to know themselves better (for better or worse), so they invite and crave feedback. They seek feedback for the same reasons as others—it’s the […]

Yes Is Easy … Boundaries Are Hard

(Excerpt from my soon-to-be-published book, Just One Step: The Journey to Your Unstoppable You) When I speak to audiences, I often ask them how many of them are great at saying “yes” to others, and an overwhelming number of hands go up. I then ask how many of them are […]

Beware Your First Answers

When it comes to asking questions of ourselves or about situations (often related to assessing risks), we need to be very aware of our first answer and even answers. The problem with our first answers is two-fold. First, our first answers (especially around risks or obstacles) are typically the biggest […]

Isolate the “But”

You know what I’m talking about … the infamous and dangerous word “but.” There are two versions of “but” that we love to use. First, is the “but” that virtually negates everything we said before it: I don’t want to complain, but … I don’t want to sound negative, but … I love your […]

They’re Your Buttons

Recently, someone asked me how they could prevent people from pushing their buttons. More specifically, they asked me “How can I choose not to react when people attempt to push my buttons?” It’s a great question and she asked me to write more about this, so here I am. The […]