Mercy … Please

While there’s certainly plenty of room for mercy for others, today I’m talking about mercy towards yourself. More specifically, the need to stop beating yourself up over every little thing. I’ve written on this topic before, but I hear people doing it to themselves every day. What I’m talking about […]

Attitude Reflects Leadership

I love movies. More important, I love the lessons that movies can teach us – if we’re open and ready to hear them. One of my favorite movies and certainly one of my very favorite sports related movies is Remember the Titans (2000), starring Denzel Washington as the African American […]

In You Must Go

You knew it was coming – with the debut of The Force Awakens you had to know I would share a message with a Star Wars theme. Yet perhaps not the message or reference you anticipated. One of the often forgotten scenes from The Empire Strikes Back occurs when Luke […]

Stop Shoulding on Yourself (and Others)©

If you know me, you know that I believe in the power of words to empower or disempower, especially the words we use about ourselves. You also know that I have given up a long list of words: can’t, try, someday, never, impossible, okay and busy. Well, it’s time to […]

It’s Not You, It’s Me©

Back by popular demand and following up on last week’s Leadership Lessons from Butch & Sundance, this week’s leadership and life lessons come from the television. Specifically, from the wisdom of Seinfeld – the show that claims to be about nothing but is really about everyday life (if you look […]

Who’s to Blame?©

None of us want to admit that we blame or make excuses. While we know that blaming, excuse-making and playing the role of the victim are prevalent in our culture, certainly it must be everyone else. The problem is that the math just doesn’t add up – if the majority […]

Start With the Center of the Circle©

I love when I learn something new or gain a new perspective on something, and that is precisely what happened this past week thanks to my dear friend, David Akers! David is an innovative entrepreneur, a deep thinker and a good question asker, and he often has a way of […]

The Seduction of Helpless© (adapted from Unmask: Let Go of Who You’re “Supposed” to Be & Unleash Your True Leader)

Who wants to be helpless? Anyone? Anyone? Let’s try a different question: Are you living in a largely helpless state by virtue of your choices? If you’re like most people, you just offered an emphatic “NO” to both of these questions, but I’m going to challenge you. Are you ready […]

The Gift of Choice©

Whether you are a movie buff or not, most of you probably have seen the classic The Blues Brothers, starring John Belushi and Dan Aykroyd. In one memorable scene, John Belushi is tracked down by his ex-fiancé (played by Carrie Fisher) who is armed with a machine gun. When confronted, […]