Mercy … Please

While there’s certainly plenty of room for mercy for others, today I’m talking about mercy towards yourself. More specifically, the need to stop beating yourself up over every little thing. I’ve written on this topic before, but I hear people doing it to themselves every day. What I’m talking about […]

Help Them See It

During several recent coaching sessions, I was talking with leaders about the importance and necessity of helping their team members seeissues, shortcomings and opportunities to improve. Through these discussions, it became clear that managers and leaders usually fit somewhere in a range of approaches – only one of which is […]

Most Powerful Words

During a recent personal retreat, I heard a speaker share several examples of powerful and empowering words – what he called the most powerful words– and over the past month I’ve added on to this list. Most important, I’ve started to realize that using these words with our team members […]

Learning Happens in the Present

If you’ve read or followed me for even a short time, you’ll know how much I believe in and embrace the power of being present – in the moment and in the now. As I’ve deepened my understanding and experience of the present, I’ve also learned some amazing things about […]

The Illusion of Accountability

One of the first questions I ask business owners and leaders who come to me for a consultation is, “How are you doing with accountability?” Typically, when leaders are honest with themselves the answer is either “We could do a lot better” or “We are terrible at it.” Certainly, it […]

Trust the Plan – Even If It’s Not Your Plan

One of the lynchpins of living a mostly stress-free life, where calm and peaceful is the norm and joy is prevalent, is to trust deeply that no matter what happens to you or around you, everything (including you) will be okay. It’s a challenging shift, and it’s one that will […]

Carved In Stone

Recently, I was walking downtown with a friend and I suggested that we should cross the street, even though there wasn’t a crosswalk. Yes, it was jaywalking. I followed up by saying what I’ve said many times – that I see most rules as more like suggestions, and I added […]

Are You Hiding?

No matter what your age or generation, nearly all of us have played the game hide and seek. It’s a fun game that can be played inside or outside, and it’s simple enough that anyone can play. Unfortunately, it’s also become a game that we play at work and in […]

What or Who Are You Waiting On?

You know how sometimes you hear a song over and over for years and years, but you realize you’ve never really heard it? Well, that just happened to me last week with the song “Waiting on the World to Change” by John Mayer (2006). I’ve heard this song many times, […]

I Could Never

How often do you say some version of “I could never ….?” I know that I hear it regularly. I just completed my annual trip with my Dad – this time it was for 9 days out west and included an Amtrak train ride, 2,500 miles of driving (roughly the […]