A Tolerance Process

Recently, I wrote about the role and impact of tolerance in your leadership (and life), offering this truth: “Your leadership, your relationships and your career are not defined by what you preach, but by what you tolerate.” I’ve gotten a great deal of push back and resistance to this position […]

Culture Killers

Everyone’s talking about it, but few are building it. Everyone says they want it, but few are willing to commit to it. Everyone thinks they have it, but few actually do. Yes, I’m talking about culture – more specifically, a culture by design. One truth about culture is that unless […]

“This Has to Stop” Is Not the Answer

If you’re like most leaders and team members, you’re familiar with this phrase:  “This has to stop.” It’s a phrase we use in meetings and conversations when one or more people have identified a problem in the organization – something that’s not working or which is getting in the way […]

What If They Know?

There’s an old saying: “You can run, but you can’t hide.” I’m not sure about the derivation or intended meaning of this saying, but it reminds me of the ways that we attempt to hide from others what we’re really thinking. Frankly, I think it’s impossible to hide our feelings […]

It Is You

If you’re a Seinfeld fan, you’ll remember the episode where George’s girlfriend breaks up with him and uses this line: “It’s not you, it’s me.” In response, George protests that he invented that break-up line and further insists that it is definitely him. Finally, she relents and tells the truth: “Alright […]

What’s Your Impact Awareness?

Previously, I’ve written about this leadership truth: Everything you do (or don’t do) and everything you say (or don’t say) has an impact, intended and unintended. Conscious and effective leaders constantly scan for and consider these impacts. The awareness and personal ownership of these impacts is a vital part of […]

Time to Let Go

Last year I walked a portion of the Camino de Santiago – 200 miles of mostly solitary walking across northern Spain. It was an incredible journey, and it was filled with many different experiences along the way. One tradition on the Camino is to carry a stone with you, which […]

Embrace the Dump in Meetings

Think about the last time you were in a meeting where you had very strong reservations about the idea being presented or the person presenting the idea. Perhaps you had extreme doubts about achieving the goal being discussed or you had lots of examples of ways that the team or […]

Leaders Are Honest About Their People

One of Jack Nicholson’s most famous movie lines (he has many) is “You can’t handle the truth!” from A Few Good Men, and it’s often true for all of us, especially as leaders. This past year, I’ve been sharing this uncomfortable truth, which has been disrupting leaders across the world […]

The Leader Pause

I recently had an unexpected encounter with one of the audience members in a large group setting where I was speaking. I was not able to read her name tag, and I didn’t hear her (due to my hearing loss) when I asked for her name. As a result, I […]