It’s Not That Complicated©

Every morning I get a “Note from the Universe” courtesy of Mike Dooley ( This morning’s Note was as follows:

Some people say life is hard. It is not.

Some people say it’s easy. It is not.

Some say it’s lonely, tricky, or a test. It is not.

Life is only a reflection of whatever you say.

Well if that’s true (and I believe it is), then business, relationships and life are hard, complicated, challenging and risky. Why? Because that’s how most people refer to them. Personally, I stopped saying such things a few years ago because I realized that they weren’t true and that if I kept saying them, then they could become true.

As a result, business, relationships and life got easier, less complicated, less challenging and less risky. Even more important, all of these things got simpler, and simpler is something that I can navigate quite well. Here are some examples of things, ways of thinking or concepts that I have simplified over the past couple of years:

  • Rather than figure out the right thing to say, tell the truth.
  • Instead of making the right decision, do the right thing.
  • Rather than wear a variety of masks, be myself.
  • Instead of figuring out what to say, listen more.
  • Rather than try to be profound, ask more questions.
  • Instead of trying to guess what someone else wants, ask, listen and seek to understand.
  • Rather than strategize to reduce risk, trust myself and my instincts.
  • Instead of trying to make people feel good, be fully present.
  • Rather than try to be persuasive, be impeccable with my words.
  • Instead of assuming, ask.
  • Rather than just saying “I’m sorry,” change the behavior that requires it.
  • Instead of working hard to control outcomes, surrender and trust.

Pretty simple, isn’t it?

Whether any of these shifts are hard or easy, I can’t say because everyone’s experiences will be different based upon their own situations. However, they are decidedly simple shifts to understand, and they take a lot of the guessing out of business, relationships and life–and guessing seems to be causing many of our communication and relationship disconnects.

Finally, here’s a big shift–instead of figuring out exactly what to do or how to do it, simply serve. I’m confident that if each of us, our teams, our families and communities become committed to serving, we can create the changes and outcomes we all desire, personally and professionally. I truly believe that it’s just that simple!

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